9 Signs Your Girlfriend Is Ready To Break Up And Leave You

Almost every relationship you get into, you go into it quietly hoping that it will be the one that will define your life. This is even when you know that there’s only a remote chance of that happening.

If running into the ONE is so easy, there wouldn’t so many singles roaming the streets and clubs.

So when you have put a lot into a relationship, it can be really painful when you start feeling your girlfriend drifting further and further away from you emotionally.

You could either be paranoid in reading too much into her behavior… or you could actually have a decent sixth sense.

So is she or isn’t she about to break up with you? Here are some signs to look out for.

1) She starts going out on weekends… without you

Weekends are supposed to be allocated time slots for us to recharge.

It is almost arbitrary that the fun things people do on weekends are done with their partners (if any). So it can be really suspicious if she starts going out without you regularly on weekends.

Making a decision to relax and recharge without you means that she feels that you are a parasite stopping her from recharging effectively. Instead of having you be a source of relaxation over the weekend to recharge, she actually feels that you would make things worse.

And to avoid making things awkward, the “justified” excuses she give you can be things like:

• her cousin is in town
• it’s a gathering of classmates from high school who you don’t know
• a “girl thing” she has to do with her close friends
• etc

The problem would be worse for you if the reason she goes out alone is because she signed up for some types of courses of activities without even telling you about it or asking you to tag along.

For example:

• volunteering at the animal shelter
• taking up dance lessons
• taking on extra projects at work

These instances are worse because they are real legitimate reasons to go out alone which you can do little about. And asking her to stop would give her the perfect ammunition to respond by saying you are “paranoid” and “unreasonable”.

The real reason is of course… she finds her weekends too valuable to be wasted on you…

and part of that is because…

2) She’s suddenly hanging out with people you’ve never heard about

If she has been your girlfriend for a while, the odds are that you would have already met most of her friends.

But somehow, she’s going out lately with people you’ve never heard her talk about. And she insist that you don’t tag along because you would make the social dynamics awkward as her “friends” don’t really know you that well.

Suddenly there’s a Jenny from her first job, an Andy who was a good boss, a Jessie from college, a suspicious childhood friend by the name of Amanda, etc. The list never ends.

“Personal space” is suddenly a buzzword that she mentions ever so often.

And it might very well be true that she is really meeting these real people to hang out (at the club).

But don’t you find the frequency of these things occurring lately a little weird?

After all, this was never an issue in the last 6 months that you have dated her. Why now?

Maybe because she is starting to despise you as hell and is more than willing to pull out her dust-filled phone book to arrange odd appointments just so she can get you out of her sight.

And the icing on the cake is that…

3) She doesn’t tell suitors that she has a boyfriend

I don’t know how you are going to find this out.

Maybe you can bug her like how the CIA would on a target. Maybe you are close one of her friends who actually has some morality that does go out with her on these parties to tell on her. Or maybe you could stalk her wearing a ninja black suit. Whatever.

But if she doesn’t tell potential suitors that she has a boyfriend, you are screwed.

People can play with words and say that it’s ridiculous to tell everyone that she’s attached. And that some random guy who walked up to her and dropped a cheesy pick-up line really just want to be friends.

But come on. You can tell who is looking to get lucky and who does not have a chance in hell.

When faced with such situations, if she doesn’t declare her relationship status as “attached”, you can probably guess what’s on her mind.

Need me to decipher it to you? Ok.

She is all ready to break up with you and move on. Hopefully with that hot guy who just flirted with her at the counter.

Whether men continue to flirt and attempt to seduce her is out of your control. But if she don’t even respect your relationship enough to tell players that she has a boyfriend… that is really an insult to your relationship.

The question you need to ask yourself is whether you have the courage to drop her like a brick?

4) Sex has become just a thing you do

Many would argue that a woman who is ready to break things off with you wouldn’t have sex with you anymore.

I agree to a certain extent. But that is only when she is already in love with someone else.

When there is no someone else, or when there is another guy but no love, more often than not, women will just continue having sex with you just so an alarm bell would not be triggered in the boyfriend.

Just that the love making would be less intense, less passionate, and more mundane. As if just to get it over with.

This would keep her under the radar until she is certain that the bomb has to be dropped on you.

5) She starts becoming very trendy

When you are single and looking, you keep yourself up to date with all the latest styles, trends, and even celebrity gossips.

This is so that you look at your best should you run into someone you find attractive and like to hook up with. You then have a whole bag of mindless topics and gossips to talk about and carry the conversation. In other words you want to look and be “cool”.

And if you’ve ever been in a relationship, you’d know that once you hook up with someone, the drive to keep up with fashion and trends starts becoming a chore. This is because you’ve already have the girl of your dreams with you and don’t need to do anything just to impress other people.

This makes people lazy… which is no wonder you only wear old T-shirts and flip-flops these days…

So when you girlfriend starts dressing up for other people instead of you, it says a lot about what’s in her evil mind. In some cases, her new dress sense might not even resemble who she was when you first met her.

She no longer cares how good you look. What matters now is how good she looks.

It’s almost a new person in appearance.

Well… maybe that’s because she doesn’t want to attract someone similar to you again… So she has to change her looks to attract someone with a different personality…

The exception is when your girlfriend is an actual fashion freak. And again, don’t play with words. You can tell whether your girlfriend is really dressing up because it’s just what she does, or doing it to attract other men.

What an irony that you only get to see your girlfriend without make-up while other people get to see her in her most beautiful form…

6) Fights get frequent and anger starts to drag for days

Every little thing you say or do starts to trigger hostile war of words between the 2 of you.

It wasn’t this way during the first 3 months of your relationship. Small fights did happen. But one party or the other, always make up or readily accept making up, with little backlash within minutes.

Now even telling her that you had sushi for lunch can ignite her anger because you had not brought her to the sushi place for weeks. She starts to pick fights for no apparent reasons.

Not only that.

In these occurrences, she can get angry and ignore you for days on end. Causing you sleepless nights.

Can you imagine that? All this arguments and coldness from her just from an innocent mention of your sushi lunch?

This is a big problem. And I’m sorry to say that there is little way back. Even white lies will not help.

You have somehow flipped a switch in the dynamics of the relationship. The lid on her tolerance for your little undesirable habits have come off. There’s no more affection. And you will never be able to put the seal back on. Things will never be the same again once you reach this stage of a relationship.

Things she used to find lovable in you start to become disgusting…

Her temper start to flare up easily over little things and spill over for days. And she starts to attack your self-esteem by constantly complaining about your flaws that she used to say were cute. So annoying you have become on her mind that one-word responses in conversation has become a mainstay.

Breaking up with you is already on her mind. And she might send you a letter to do it just so as to complete the cycle of her avoidance of you.

7) You need to compete for her schedule

What used to be “couple time” by default has suddenly changed.

It used to be that the both of you would have dinner after work and she would spend the weekend at your place without question. Both of you would make it a point to inform each other should either of you have other commitments.

Now the tables have turned.

Now you need to check with her if the 2 of you are meeting. And she has suddenly been very caught up with work and social events. The default has become that there will be no meetup unless she can make time for you.

Suddenly you are competing with the TV series on prime time cable for her time. You can’t get a decisive response from her when you try to arrange for dinner the next day. And you can’t even get her to say yes to a holiday trip to get away from the city some time this calendar year.

The routines that the 2 of you have shared for months is no longer. It’s as if you are now on uncharted territory and can no longer predict what is happening tomorrow or the day after.

It should be clear at this point that your girlfriend finds her time too valuable to be wasted on you. You’d be a top priority if she intends to rebuild your relationship.

8) A shift in focus on life goals

You start to be neglected by her. And she acknowledges it and attributes it to a new focus on her career and financial goals.

This can be a very big sign that she is already ready to move on from you depending on her outlook in life.

As you might expect, women think about money a lot. This is human nature as women have a very high survival instinct. And the key to survival in this unforgiving world is money.

Don’t label women as gold-diggers. It’s just the way society have shaped up.

The point I’m making is that your girlfriend was possibly with you as she saw the financial benefits that comes with dual income. This means that you are supposed to contribute at least half the financial goals in her mind.

She has now seen through you and realized that she would never be able to achieve her financial goals with you. You have somehow given her the impression that you cannot be depended upon financially.

So she has taken it upon herself to achieve her financial goals… or until she finds another man who meets the criteria.

This is why she has shifted a lot of her focus on her career or investing in things like stocks and real estate.

No longer is she replying you with flirting SMS. There’s no time for that.

She needs to make thing happen in life herself… rather than depend on you. You are no longer a priority and quite possibly, dispensable.

9) She brings out the dirty laundry in front of others

I’d go as far as to say that any party in any healthy relationship wouldn’t want to make the other party look bad in front of others.

Why bring out the dirty laundry for everyone else to pass judgement?

Well… your girlfriend would probably have no qualms over making you look bad in front of friends if she no longer cares about how you feel and your self-image.

So frustrated is she with being stuck with you, that the sensible girl in her has surrendered to the devil in her.

In fact, by fighting with you in public, she could be unconsciously trying to garner social support for her to leave you.

What? You seldom going out together with social groups now?

Don’t worry, she can still make the most of social media and perform her boyfriend-bashing antics online. Everyone in the world would then take it from her about what a sore loser you are. Totally blindsiding you.

If she is ready to let the whole world know about problems in the relationship this way, it is a clear sign that she is ready to abandon the relationship altogether.