9 Books That’ll Help Men See Dating As It Really Is

I’ll admit it. I love to read. In fact, sometimes I’m shocked at the amount of books I’ve read.

Although I have toned down my reading fetish in recent years, I’d still pick up interesting titles whenever I see them… hoping that one day I’ll get into the groove of obsessive reading yet again.

And one of those topics that truly below my mind was when I started to read material about dating for men. I can’t quite pin-point which book triggered me to delve into this topic on my reading list. But what I found in the rabbit hole was astounding.

I remember having many profound realization moments while going through these material. And here, I will share with you 9 of the most mind-blowing books that will teach you things about women and dating that you will not find anywhere else.

Get ready to have what you think you know about attraction and sexuality blown away.

Even if you don’t think you need help or don’t need to improve yourself in this area of your life, these books are still very interesting read.

Anyway… these days with digital publishing, it doesn’t cost a lot of money to pick them up.

1) The Red Queen – Matt Ridley

This book goes deep into the real reasons and primal instincts about why couples get together.

Everybody, men and women, get together and procreate. While most people will insist that it is love that brought them together instead of sex, this book provides over 400+ pages of counter arguments to determine otherwise.

And it’s quite convincing too.

Get ready for some no-holds-barred truths about things we think about but do not say like:

• why women like tall men
• why men like beautiful women
• why men like voluptuous women
• etc

And against the very nature if who we are, it also explains why and how sex arose.

2) Sperm Wars – Robin Baker

Your first impression of a book title like this is probably that it must be a joke or some kind of light-hearted comedy novel. But it is anything but that.

This is a controversial book with a very serious and education tone. Among others, it documents how as much as 10% of children are not fathered by the fathers they know.

Sperm wars offer a look below the surface of how human beings are genetically programmed for infidelity.

It’s a brutal awakening to realize that our urge to reproduce is the driving force of the human body instead of the brain.

Our mental process concerning sex has been programmed through centuries of evolutionary forces. You can either accept and live with it, or live in denial all your life.

Although the science behind the ideas behind the topic is questionable, it sets you thinking. And a part of you will agree with the primal mess that we get into while dating.

3) Way of the Superior Man – David Deida

This is a really good read about the essence of being a real man. A man who is able to respect himself and not betray the masculine instincts found at a primal level.

It then moves on to teach men how to transcend that energy into interactions not just to attract women who are looking for a real man, but also to help maintain relationships.

The last thing you want when you’ve found the love of your life is to have her leave you for feeling that you are not “man enough”.

This is the ultimate guide for men to recognize and come to terms with the man inside them. It list out the many factors and elements that makes men… men. Especially about how masculine energy interacts with feminine energy in communication.

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And if you think that things like beefy biceps and facial hair makes you more manly, the teachings in this book will disintegrate your beliefs into dust.

This is one of those books that can potentially change your life not just in areas of relationships. But also on career, success, wealth and life in general.

4) Art of Seduction – Robert Greene

The depth and detail that went into this book will astonish you.

The first section breaks down the common personality types of seducers. By being able to categorize these personality types, you will be better able to analyze situations and come up with a counter-plan to seduce or be seduced.

The second segment of the book goes into various strategies and tactics of seduction while calling out historical events when these strategies were successfully used and documented.

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5) The Selfish Gene – Richard Dawkins

I’m amazed that this book is more than 30 years old.

This read goes in depth about natural selection. What we think about what we are attracted to concerning the opposite gender might not be as concrete as we think.

With a strong focus on Darwin’s work, it is sort of a mutation, evolution, or maybe even an improvement to timeless knowledge.

Our genes want to replicate. And replicate fast. Inferiority is left behind and only the strongest survive.

The body is just a carrier of the gene. Sort of like the alien movies Hollywood makes depicting alien parasites taking control of the human body.

You are going to find many amusing metaphors to describe ideas too.

Although it takes on a seemingly serious topic, this book is surprisingly fun and enjoyable to read. That’s a tribute to the writing style of Richard Dawkins.

6) The Mating Mind – Geoffrey Miller

Geoffrey Miller is a psychologist who has written this masterpiece of not just how the human mind has evolved, but also why.

His ideas are not just plucked out thin air. But more of a fusion of the many different school of thoughts about natural selection and topics unrelated to dating. Yet he does a good job of explaining how unrelated stuff matter and how it shapes our minds today in terms of mating.

While “The Selfish Gene” focuses on Natural Selection, “The Mating Mind” focuses on Sexual Selection.

The gist contained in this book is how every decision, big or small, is determined by fundamental sexuality.

If you like reading about evolutionary psychology, this is a book you simply cannot pass up on.

7) The Dangerous Passion – David M. Buss Ph.D.

Why do men and women cheat? Is it a necessity?

The authors takes a close look into the power of jealousy and goes into research on multiple cultures throughout centuries to decipher the riddle of why people cheat.

Jealousy is one of the most powerful motivational force that triggers action. And a lot of the time, this emotion can be a catalyst to radical actions.

If you are able to learn, comprehend, and conquer this irresistible force of nature, you will be better able to exploit it in all aspects of life. Especially in dating.

8) How to Be the Jerk Women Love – F.J.Shark

This is less about inner game and more about tricks and techniques that you apply on daily life to attract women.

Written in 1994, the concepts and tactics you find inside still works in today’s world even though online dating and social media has sort of taken over the world. Because ultimately, men still need to physically meet up with women to date.

You can’t really have a relationship with a virtual profile can you?

Above all else, this is a book about empowerment.

9) The Rules – Sherrie Schneider

The content in this publication is actually geared towards women. But I think it can only help men to learn more about what goes on in the flirting minds of women.

This book will give you insight of what goes on in the female mindset when it comes to dating and selecting a partner.

When you have a good idea of what you are dealing with, the battle is already 50% won. This helps you to see setbacks as just part of the process instead of an outright rejection.

You only truly fail when you give up. Use this as a guide to stop you from misinterpreting flirting and playing hard-to-get as rejection.