9 Reasons Why Someone Is Not Interested But Will Not Say So

Whether you are a man or woman, surely you must have gone through the dreaded and puzzling experience of showing obvious interest in someone and received reciprocity… but he or she is actually not that into you.

You loathed it because you thought that you actually had a shot when the actions of the person you fancy resembled the actions of someone who likes you back.

And you are totally confused and mindboggled as to why someone who don’t feel the same about you would accept all your affection when he or she don’t see you as a genuine relationship partner.

For the purpose of easier writing, I will be talking about this topic from the point of view of a guy who likes a gal and she just don’t like him back even though she continues to accept his advances and not being upfront about her disinterest.

Otherwise I would have to keep writing the phrases “him or her” or “he or she”. That’s really tiring.

So why is she continuing to hang out with you, instant message you late into the night, and even flirt with you when she is not interested in you in a romantic way… while you have already made your intentions clear?

You are not going to like the answers.

1) Attention brings pleasure

Attention can often be as addictive as cocaine.

Some people crave so much of it that they go out of their way to do weird things just so that they can get others to notice.

And if you don’t have to work for that attention, you’d enjoy the pleasure all the more.

Imagine having someone who just simply finds that any action you make or any behavior you display as cute.

You’d feel like a superstar who can do no wrong in front of the paparazzi!

Why would anyone want to throw that all away by killing your attraction for her by telling you straight out that you have no chance in hell with her?

2) Free gifts for no particular reason

Despite what the media likes to play up, most people (men and women) are not materialistic when it comes to love.

There are real gold-diggers in real life. But the odds of you falling head over heels for one is not that high.

Moreover, if she is indeed a gold-digger, you’d probably lose interest unless you have the cash to burn.

In that case, you shouldn’t be having this problem we are discussing right here right now.

The thing is that even though when money is not the sole motivation for someone to get into a romantic relationship with someone else, receiving freebies and surprise gifts all the time can be a nice routine to enjoy.

Especially when one is receiving useful gifts like handheld fans or powerbanks.

And when someone is ever so willing to shower you with gifts just by being who you are even on a bad hair day, it sure fires up the ego too.

3) Show off to her friends

Social pressure can be a damn thing sometimes.

It makes us do things that we normally would not do, or things that we have absolutely no interest in doing.

She could have friends who are loaded with suitors and guys chasing after them. So she needs to have her own portfolio of men to talk about with her friends.

Or else she would become outcast when they talk about men!

At least if she continues to keep you around and let you think that you might have a chance (when in fact you have none) by not telling you so, she can at least boast about you as a statistic.

Peer pressure can really choke when all your friends are laughing about how other men are being played by them and you have nothing to add to the conversation.

4) She might only want physical intimacy

It used to be taboo to say this.

But in this modern day and age, more and more people are very comfortable with themselves for seeking sex without emotional commitment.

There is always a possibility that she might be thinking about doing the deed with you… but is afraid that you would want a serious relationship.

So by keeping you around, she gets more time to observe whether you might be someone who would not emotionally blackmail her after sex.

A relationship is still possible after physical intimacy.

5) You are a backup

There is also every chance that she has already eyed one of the hunks in school or at work.

She is still assessing whether there is a genuine chance of closing as handsome charismatic men are usually in high demand and popular with the girls.

So you are the packet of instant noodles that is kept in the kitchen cabinet that would be opened when the restaurant is overbooked for dinner.

At least no one would be going hungry. Except you.

There is an even more sinister nature to this because…

6) She is using you as a tool

The more someone appears to be attractive to the opposite sex, the more attractive that person becomes.

Processionals in the dating world call this pre-selection.

If someone is in high demand by the other gender, then surely she must be valuable to receive such validation.

If the hunk that she fancies find that she has a tool (in the form of you) following her around like a lap-dog, then he might value her more and might even make a move on her… which is what she really wants.

7) She don’t want to look like a bad person

This is one odd reason. But it is as real as it gets.

Many people want to be a good person. At least that’s what they think they want or how they see themselves.

And rejecting others is a behavior that they consider as something only a bad person would do to another’s request.

So they delay rejecting another person until it’s absolutely necessary to put it into words.

You could of course, keep pushing the envelope.

There’s little you can do about this. And no one to blame.

People are individuals. And everyone can have different ways with how they see the world.

8) You are of other value

Maybe you have some skill set that she needs access to, maybe you help her with her homework, maybe you are her boss. Maybe maybe maybe.

This can be a really awkward situation for her.

On the one hand, she don’t like you… but don’t dislike you either.

On the other hand, she feel that smashing your chances like a bug can greatly affect the platonic relationship that is already present.

You are going to burn in hell if you knowingly put her under this sort of pressure.

9) You share a lot of common friends

If you have a lot of common friends, then she could really be doing you a favor by not telling you that she is not interested in your face.

She is wary of how you might be laughed at by common friends.

You should really walk away if you have any self-respect left in you.