9 Things Women Think About When Assessing A Man’s Looks

If the decision whether to hook up with a guy is solely based on good and bad looks, 93.6% of men will be perpetually single. The fact that there are so many men who have girlfriends or married completely debunks any lingering notion (if any) that women go for looks.

But with the exception of gold-diggers, what is it about a man’s looks that meet the minimum qualifying criteria for women to determine them as boyfriend material?

Without over generalizing both men and women, I think it’s safe to say that you will not get into a relationship with someone whom you feel is visually disgusting.

And since appearance and attraction is subjective in the eyes of the beholder, it also means that just because a woman judges you to be ugly does not mean that every other women will see you in that same bracket.

Yet oddly enough, how handsome you are has little impact on whether a girl would want to get into a long term relationship and possible marriage with you.

If you are gorgeous, there might be an arousal of lust. But that doesn’t mean that women will label you are a “keeper”.

So in terms of relationships and dating, what goes through the mind of women when assessing a man’s looks?

Get ready to be shocked!

1) What her parents might think of him

The ultimate approval everyone craves for usually comes from their parents.

Most people deny this for being afraid to look weak. But you don’t have to live in denial here. Nobody will know that you are reading this.

One of the first thoughts that go through a girl’s mind when observing your face like a picture hanging in the museum is whether her parents will approve or disapprove of you.

It’s not that she will leave you if her mother thinks that you are playboy. But it will be very comforting to have her dad see you as more than just a testosterone-charged boy who probably humps everything that moves.

The ideal look is clean cut with a little boy-next-door demeanor.

2) What her friends might think

Even though men are known to be viciously competitive by nature, women can go into overdrive when it comes to comparing boyfriends and husbands.

In fact, I’d say that most women go about looking for Mr Right so so that they can show their friends. Not because that guy is so right for them.

In conversations, women often like to subtly bring the topic of their men into the picture. An invisible game of tug-of-war then goes on for whose man is the best.

No lady wants to be the subject of ridicule on how ugly her boyfriend is.

Note: You don’t need to be dashing. But you don’t want to neglect your looks and be labelled as ugly too.

Having a good looking guy by a woman’s side will make her the object of everyone’s envy. In this context, the enviable part of often substituted by the wealth or status of the man.

3) Does he have a higher rating than me in the looks department?

The beauty in the relationship is supposed to be the female. The role of the male is supposed to be the beast.

So imagine how awful a girl might feel if you are the beauty in the relationship.

Granted, it can be much fun and even something to brag about to friends and family. But deep down, a girl can feel like her implied place in the relationship is being threatened if you are an 8 and she is a 5.

This can greatly affect a girl’s self-esteem. Don’t underestimate the power of a sense of inferiority.

4) Are his flaws easy to fix?

Women are intuitively more in-tune to the latest grooming trends and technology.

It wouldn’t surprise me at all if you are a guy and have absolutely no idea of beauty and weight management technologies like:

• Cool sculpting
• Intense pulsed light (IPL)
• Snail slime face masks
• etc

The above are just a few things in an ocean of beauty treatment available today. And women are usually pretty up to date about stuff like these.

So even if you don’t have a perfect face, or have a belly to rival Shrek, you don’t have to feel like you are not worthy of a girl you like. Anyway sometimes, a simple change in diet can totally change your life.

Attraction to women goes far beyond appearance… partly because appearance can be fixed.

Just look at the girl of your dream before and after make-up to see my point.

So while you might have obvious flaws like acne or panda-like eye bags. She will already be thinking about how these little flaws can be fixed using what types of new age treatment. And she probably has a coupon for it too!

5) Does he groom himself?

Even though women might be thinking about how to fix your flaws quickly and easily, an obnoxious guy who don’t shave or keep his hair in place can be a dealbreaker.

Because even if visual imperfection can be fixed, a man who makes no effort to groom himself will render the changes redundant.

You don’t need to groom yourself as immaculately as David Beckham. But at least:

• Keep your hair in place,
• Shave unless you have a gorgeous facial hair look
• Use deodorant if you have body odor
• Trim your finger nails
• Wear clothing that are properly pressed
• Wear proper shoes that fit the occasion
• Use lip balm/gloss if you have chapped lips

If you present yourself as someone who takes care of your body, you should be in the clear in this aspect.

6) How she can dress him up

No matter how well dressed you are, you are still lacking in her mind.

Nope. Those rugged looking shirts and worn-torn jeans are not going to do it.

One of the first things that crosses her mind about is what size you wear. Because the first gift she is think about giving you (if she likes you) is a T-shirt, maybe even 2 or 3.

That’s just the start.

If you really hate being played as a doll, you need to address this issue quickly so that she don’t waste her money on clothing that you will never wear. And of course… avoid her speech of how little you care about her feelings when you refuse to wear them.

7) Is he like honey to bees?

One of the things that trouble women a lot is the thought of whether you will be a target of shameless women.

She don’t want to constantly have to worry about other women throwing themselves at his feet.

The good part is that she is already thinking long term with you.

But insecurity is one of the biggest factors that can make a woman reject men even when they are as hot as movie stars. It’s just too tiring and stressful to worry about you cheating when you are not around.

Being too good looking can be a curse…

8) How will his children look like?

This is more of a genetic instinct. You can’t help it.

We all want our children to have the best genes. And above all else, we wish that they will be as irresistibly attractive as we are. 😀

It is almost a given that if you are tall, you children will be tall. And if you have smooth healthy skin, so will your offspring. Plus if you have a well-defined chiselled chin, hopefully your children will inherit that from you too.

So depending on what are the qualities a girl feels are attractive, she’d want her man to have those qualities so that it can be passed down to the children.

9) What exactly is that tattoo hidden in his shirt?

Tattoos are sexy. Don’t argue with me on this one.

If you have them, be smart about it and make them work for you be giving a hint of it by either wearing shirts are are a little see through or wearing short-sleeves and loose v-necks.

Now unless you have some weird point to make via your tattoos (like a cockroach), any tattoo is going to be sexy.

And when you are just showing a hint of it, a girl will be thinking what is behind those layers of cloth once she notices it.

Not just that. She wants to know the meanings behind them… and the story behind them.

Don’t despair if you have a tattoo of the name of an ex-girlfriend. It could work both ways. She might think that you are capable of love and work doubly hard to impress you so that she get to imprint her name on your body too.

Finally

Just a reminder that these are things that goes through the mind women who are assessing your looks as a potential partner. It is not necessary to pass the criteria of all of them for a woman to consider you as a mate.

Women are after all adults too. And adults usually know from life lessons that what’s ideal is usually unattainable.

If you can work these things towards the better, good for you. But if there are just some things that you cannot change, don’t fret like it’s the end of the world. After all, attraction to women goes well beyond appearance.