9 Non-desperate Steps To Get A Guy To Make A Move On You

You’ve been rolling about in your bed for the last hour trying to sleep… and you can’t trick yourself to doze off no matter what you do… because you have been thinking about that cute guy for reasons you can’t identify…

You think he like you too. But for some reason he is not making a bold move on you. Yet disturbingly, this shyness and aloofness in him just makes you want him more.

You don’t want to appear as a shameless slut so as not to turn him off. Looking too desperate will not help you in any way. And you don’t want to embarrass yourself by being too aggressive in your approach and face rejection.

He is after all a decent chap. And why he is keeping his hands to himself defies all logic.

Look what Cupid has done.

Men can be just as complicated as women when it comes to attraction and relationships. But the good thing is that men are less stubborn when it comes to selecting a girlfriend.

This means that even if he has never perceived you as a potential girlfriend, his mind can be changed. This is the opposite of women as there’s pretty much no way back once a guy has been written-off as boyfriend material.

Here’s what you can do to get that guy to make a move on you.

1) Let him be a man

Every man has an instinctive need to be a man. This is why we often see dashing men settle for less attractive women… because they feel more like a real man when being with less attractive and accommodating women.

But you don’t need to be ugly to make a man feel like a man. You can still easily raise this feeling of masculinity in a man if you are not beautiful and drop-dead gorgeous.

The problem these days is that a huge segment of women stop allowing men to do the masculine stuff and instead choose to become the “man” in their relationships. And they don’t even realize that they are slowly killing their men from the inside.

You can easily make a man feel masculine when being around you by:

• allowing him to make decisions
• not questioning why he does certain stuff you don’t agree with
• not arguing with his opinions even if you disagree
• be a follower instead of a leader
• etc

Even if every pore on your skin wants you to take charge, you can still do it after you’ve bagged him as your boyfriend.

2) Listen to his stories

Everyone, men and women, have a lot of stories behind that facade.

And I don’t think that I’m wrong to say that everyone would love to tell their stories to people interested enough to listen.

But in modern times, so fixated are we with life’s distractions that we seldom run into opportunities to tell those stories to someone else.

When you start becoming a listening ear to personal stories, ideas, and opinions, a magical thing happens.

He starts thinking that you are the only person who knows who he really is. And he starts to feel more attractive than he really is. And more importantly, you become the source of all these good feelings that he desperately craves for.

You can often trigger this story telling mode by asking things like:

• how does he really feel about something
• what happened in the past that helped him develop a specific personal trait
• how does he motivate himself to work so hard

When you find him “in the zone” and cannot stop talking about his stories and experiences, it is a good sign that you are on the right track.

Evil you 😀

3) Believe in him

If you started the conversation about why he works so hard in the previous point, and he starts pouring out his goals and objectives in life, there is only ONE correct way to respond if you intend to seduce him.

You HAVE to believe in him and his ideals.

Again… even if you think he has a radical mind and will eventually come back down to earth in the near future, this is not the time to question him. Do that and he could feel embarrassed by saying too much and NEVER open up to you again in future.

Simple words like:

• I’m sure you can achieve it
• I can’t think of anyone else who will be able to do it
• I believe in you

These can make all the difference when all his friends think that he is a lone nut. Emotional support is what every man will want from a girlfriend and eventual wife. This is the chance to make him aware of the presence of these personal qualities in you. It might even trigger a feeling of a spiritual connection in him.

You can always send him crashing down to earth when you close him and gets him more emotionally attached to you.

4) Let him know he has a chance

This is the most powerful force in the world of seducing men.

People who can’t see below the surface will insist that a sexy body, revealing dress with high slits and a low cut top, will do nicely in terms of seducing men. That can work in a club to get some initial attention.

But in a real world setting like in the workplace or in school, good luck with that. Because the sexier you look, the more he might think that he has no chance in hell with all the attention you are getting from other men.

Even worst, he might think that you have a dress sense too funky for him.

As soon as a guy thinks he has a chance with a girl, he starts to think about the pros and cons of that girl. And if he is single and has no real negative impressions of you, more often than not, he will start being open to being with you.

I know guys who fall hopelessly in love overnight with someone they’ve hardly thought about being in a romantic relationship with… just because they learned that the girl was infatuated with them.

You see. Very often guys can find you attractive but never thought that they had a chance. So the thought of being with you never even enters their minds. So when they realize that the idea might actually not be impossible, their testosterone go into overdrive.

I’m serious. This is very powerful stuff.

The problem is that when you are too direct, it can turn him off as he could perceive that as being too aggressive which he doesn’t like.

So what you can do are things like:

• let his friends know that you have a small crush on him
• stealthily let him discover your personal messages with a friend when you are talking non-stop about him
• get your friends to tease the both of you as a perfect couple in social gatherings
• let him know you think he is the best looking guy in class (even if it’s not the case)
• flirt and tease him when the chance arrives
• find out his routines and habits and subtly show him that you know them

You might be very surprised at how effective this method is in motivating men to take action and make the first move on you.

5) Laugh at his jokes

Everybody thinks that their jokes are funny. They won’t tell it otherwise.

Just laughing at every lame joke he makes will make him feel appreciated… even if you have to force that smile from your face…

Since laughter is associated with being happy, if he thinks that he can make someone happy by telling effortless jokes, there’s a good chance that he will feel appreciated for being himself.

And let’s face it. Men like to be validated to have a sense of humor.

This can also play into the point I’m making in step #4.

6) Take care of him like his mother would

There’s just something irresistible about being taken cared of and be nurtured… like how a mother does to her child…

You’d probably like it too.

But because of how society like to make fun of men who display such needs for affection, you seldom see men sticking their heads out and ask to be taken care of. And almost all men would never admit that they’d like a hug once in a while.

The best opportunity to bring out your bag of tricks is to take care of him when he is ill. It would be great if you can show up at his house to take care of him. But if your culture does not allow you to do that without condemning you as a loose woman, the least you can do is to send him messages of concern and text him reminder messages to take his medicine.

It does wonders to how he views you.

If he’s a bull and never falls sick, there are also little things you can do to be his “mother”.

• helping him tuck in his shirt
• helping him straighten the ceases in his shirt
• helping him with his tie
• making him coffee in the office
• helping him tidy up his desk
• just bringing him out

Just remember that you are not advertising yourself as a slave. You can always stop all these once he becomes your boyfriend and attribute this change in your behavior to the “honeymoon period”.

Saying that, if you intend to keep the relationship, please don’t be so harsh on him.

7) Touch him often

Men, especially good men, can have big reservations of initiating any form of body contact with women.

Firstly, they don’t want to get into any unwarranted accusations of sexual harassment. Secondly, they don’t want people around him to give him a sleazy image. Thirdly, they don’t want to incur the wrath of a boyfriend or love interest who is watching behind the curtains.

So when you touch him, and touch him often, with innocent physical contact he will start seeing you in a different light. In fact, he could like it so much that he starts thinking about you in the shower.

The key here is not to touch him sexually. Doing that can create the wrong impression.

Some innocent places on the body to touch:

• elbows
• fist bumps
• brush his hands when handing something over
• flicking his hair when teasing how spiky they are
• give him brief non-sexual massages when he complains about shoulder aches

Getting a guy comfortable with your touch can often speed up the dating process. This is especially when they have been single for a while.

8) Be around at times when he is alone

Whether at work or in school there will always be times when he is alone late in the day. It could be that million-dollar report he is working on or the class project that needs to be submitted next month.

It would be even better if he is in a vulnerable state.

Whatever the case, these are great opportunities to raise your profile in his blue eyes.

I don’t know how you are going to find out about his schedule. But if you are able to infiltrate it, his heart is yours to lose.

Because inevitably, you are going to say that you are working on the same or related thing. Then suggest to work together as 2 heads are better than one. Before you know it, the 2 of you will be arranging meetups after work to discuss the “projects”. And he could soon play the good old-fashioned “I left something at home” routine and suggest his place as a more suitable location.

The thing is that when he’s alone, he has less pressure to present a stereotypical self-image in front of colleagues and friends. And this will make him more comfortable in using lame tactics to seduce you.

Little does he know that you are the real puppet master behind it all.

Make a note not to have online interactions. Because once this behavior seeds into the relationship, it can become tough to break out of that communication sphere.

9) Never talk about money

Money is a touchy issue for men.

Partly because every friend warns about gold-diggers. But more crucially, he could be insecure about the amount of money he makes.

For all you know, asking him about his income will force him to reveal his true financial status to you. And no matter how much or how little he makes, he could think that it is not enough to impress you.

Just like how women are never satisfied with their looks, men are never satisfied with their income.

Even if you are not materialistic and have little interest in how much he makes, it is best to leave this issue in the back burner for now. If you must know, you can always sneak a peek at his bank account when the 2 of you are dating.

In fact, by leaving this topic off the table from the start, he could actually feel that you like him for who he is.

And by the way, people who are rich would like to keep that secret from as much people as possible.

Before you go…

Remember that just like there is a little girl in every woman, there is also a little boy in every man. So don’t forget to be playful in your approach. And if you are going to make such an effort to entice a man to make a move on you, you want to make sure that he is worth it.